Learning the best ways of dealing with anger tends to point you towards anger management courses. And these courses can be tremendously helpful. They can help you understand why you may be angry and they can give you strategies that you can use to prevent the anger getting out of hand.
However, wouldn’t it be wonderful if you found a way to completely dissolve your anger altogether? So that the emotion just didn’t arise despite the normal triggers?
When you are learning about the various ways to deal with anger, first it is best to explore why you feel anger in the first place.
Anger is always a reaction to fear. In a way, it is a more healthy reaction to the fear itself (such as succumbing to the fear), as now you are attempting to do something about it, rather than passively accepting it.
But anger rarely makes a situation better, as it can stir up anger in others. A full scale shouting match invariably creates the exact opposite of what you would like to achieve. And, let’s face it, uncontrolled anger is rather childish, even though it can be understandable.
If you go back to the source of your original anger, before things got out of control, you can sometimes see the reason. Try not to intellectualise this, but rather simply get a feeling. If you allow that feeling, you may be able to trace it further back. For example, you may never have been allowed to express your fears as a child, so this created frustration, then anger in you.
It is different for everyone.
First, learning how to deal with anger issues can be helpful.
Time is a wonderful tool! It can give you the breathing space to cool down after an initial reaction and to try to understand the other’s point of view. Without knowing they come from fear, it can be difficult sometimes to see where they are coming from. This is the best way to deal with an angry letter, SMS or other message. Be the adult in the situation!
If the angry outburst is from someone in front of you, again, time is helpful. Focus a little apart from the person and breath deep and slow a few times. Then focus on your heart, allowing compassion. Don’t try to answer any points. Just allow them to vent. If it becomes totally unreasonable and out of hand, it may be best to simply walk away.
Usually, it is best to try to address some of the major points, but do so very calmly. Don’t allow it to become a win or lose situation. The other person needs space to see what they did, on their own, without you ramming it down their throats.
Dealing with anger issues over an occasion or situation, it is helpful to know that on an energetic level, anger feeds it. Yes, you may be justified in feeling the anger as it may be unjust, unfair or even cruel. But, to really help the situation, it is best to realise that anger will keep it going; the last thing you want.
On a physical level, someone who tends to feel a lot of anger, will create liver pathology. The metaphysical (in this case an emotion) always precedes the physical. So these people are prone to any of the liver problems, from hepatitis to liver cancer.
Even our language shows us the reality of this – a liverish person is a bad tempered person.
However understanding, though helpful, is not enough. You are still caught in the endless cycle.
Amazingly, there is a modality of natural health care that can effortlessly and quickly balance out this emotion and the pathology which comes with it. Homeopathy works at an energetic level, bringing you back into natural balance so you can be without anger even when the triggers remain the same.
Any problem, whether it is emotion or physical, shows we are out of natural balance. To re-balance ourselves, there is nothing as effective, as dramatic or as fast as homeopathy.
If you are having trouble dealing with anger, it is a helpful message that you should do something about it. Choose homeopathy!