Finding a balance in life can be a struggle. Juggling work, family, friends, personal aspirations, goals and more comes automatically to some extent. But when we feel we aren’t doing a good enough job or when things start to go wrong, we frequently develop pathology. This is the physical expression of the emotional imbalance that we may not feel confident in expressing.
Much of how we look at life is formed in childhood. Our parents did the best job they could, but they may have been heavily influenced by trends, by society pressure and by their own parents struggles in life.
There is always a balance in giving and taking. Some give too much which can lead to resentment as others just take them for granted. Others can take too much as they may feel they have already given a lot and now it’s their turn to take. This can lead to resentment from those they take from. It can be hard to get that balance in giving and taking.
Giving Too Much
When people have a tendency to give too much, it can come from a variety of reasons. This can include a desire to feel needed or loved which may stem from a fear of not being included in their family, or other important, group.
When children have a fear their parents will break up, it threatens their very safety. Who will look after them? This can come about when the parents argue a lot. This can result in the child putting on a cheerful persona, to lighten the mood. They learn that clowning around releases the tension in the environment.
Whilst clowning around can be enjoyable for everyone, it can lead to an excess, where the person becomes unaware of who they really are. The clown becomes their whole personality, a false one.
One of the troubles with giving too much is that it can over-rule any natural desires as these may be deemed selfish. So there is a lack of connection to their core. This means they don’t have any natural ability to know what is right or wrong. So when they inevitably make mistakes, they feel shame and guilt. They feel worthless. They wonder what’s wrong with them.
Balance Is Not Without Its Problems
Finding a balance in life leads to a feeling of security within the family and workplace. There is a strong feeling of responsibility. They know what has to be done and do their part happily, desiring the same from the other members of the family, or important, group. But there can also be a bit of a struggle to maintain this.
This can easily be seen in young families, where the initial love between the partners become overshadowed by the demands of the children – school, outside activities, homework – as well as the normal household tasks and juggling work. Life becomes one long task with no room for the partner, and too tired for intimacy.
Taking Too Much
Taking too much can lead to different problems. The family, or important group, may decide to distance themselves from the perpetrator, leaving a feeling of being an outcaste, rejected. This leaves them feeling vulnerable and they feel they can be easily attacked – by anyone, including authority. Things can go from bad to worse and they can end up homeless, having lost everything.
The above scenarios are very real in today’s world. All manor of pathology can develop when we are not in balance emotionally; from mild conditions to serious ones including the heart, the liver, the lungs, the digestive tract, the musculo-skeletal system, the skin and more.
Holistic Help To The Rescue
They are also very much a part of the depth and breadth of homeopathic treatment. The homeopath has to sift through everything you tell them, to discover where you are and what troubles you.
The resulting prescription is unlikely to bring about an instantaneous healing of your pathology, but it is likely to make you feel better, happier quite quickly. Other prescriptions may be needed as healing unfolds, so it’s a good idea to find a homeopath who is not only capable, but one you get along with. Real healing can take time.
Finding a balance in life can be difficult without the right help. Homeopathy offers you that help.