Grief and loss are common feelings when a loved member of the family or close friend dies. Some people even feel it when someone close moves away. It takes us all differently. But they are expected emotions in todays world. You can even be judged as ‘cold’ or ‘hard hearted’ if these feelings aren’t displayed publicly.
My question to you is – are these feelings natural or are they part of the synthetic ‘civilised’ world of today? You may feel this is a strange question, but please bear with me.
Regular readers will know that I don’t follow traditional ways of thinking. That I am constantly attempting to peak into what I call the real world. To do this, I always look to see what nature does. In other words, what animals do.
For example, an animal mother always snuggles her babies close when sleeping or nursing them. Yet, when they are old enough, these adolescents willingly leave home and become independent, self-reliant beings. So where does the idea of ‘setting up a rod for your own back’ come from when human mothers keep their baby in their bed or in their room?
Babies need close contact with their mother. Crazy idea that they don’t. And the disconnection sets up all sorts of emotional problems for the baby that will probably be with them for life. Starting with grief and loss of the emotional break with the mother, their life support.
So let’s examine grief and loss in the animal kingdom. The following idea is being borrowed shamelessly from Dr Leonid Sharashkin. More on him later.
A couple of bird parents build a nest. The female lays three eggs. Before they can hatch, they disappear one at a time. After the third one has disappeared, a snake is seen curled up in the nest. Ah ha, the culprit.
Not long afterwards, the same parents build another next and lay another three eggs. Exactly the same scenario occurs.
Again, still in the same season, the birds build a third nest and this time lay two eggs. In time these chicks hatch and grow.
The parents didn’t dwell on the demise of their first family. They didn’t look back. They simply got on with life. I have no doubt they felt grief. But this was probably healed with the starting of the second family, and finally the third.
Dr Ryke Geerd Hamer is a brilliant German doctor. He devised ways of detecting the connection between the psyche and disease, especially cancer. This came after he was diagnosed with testicular cancer after the death of his son. His discovered that he could detect what he termed ‘conflict shocks’ in brain scans. These ‘conflict shocks’ could appear after a grief, such as that after the death of a child. But that they would disappear after the birth of another child.
Humans seem to thrive on negativity. We look at what is wrong in our lives, not what is right. The media makes much of this and sells well when it focuses on the negativity.
But, to make more of our lives, to help make this world a better place for the next and succeeding generations, we need to leave the past where it is. We need to be more like the animals. Now is the perfect time to honour the past as it is, but to leave it there.
This can be an awful lot easier to say than to do. Past grief may have become a habit. We may have been deeply traumatised by grief in our vulnerable childhood years and each subsequent grief simply compounds this. Or, for some, they may simply enjoy the additional attention from friends and family that grief inevitably brings.
Whatever the reasons for holding onto this emotion, it is not healthy. It is stopping you live a fulfilling life. It is setting you up for ill health. And it does not contribute to the energy of a thriving and vibrant planet, something in desperate need in this time.
Good homeopathic treatment may be the only system of healing that can transform your grief and loss, that can allow you to move on, without dishonouring the memories.
Dr Leonid Sharashkin (editor of the Ringing Cedar Series) talks about the areas in life that can transform our way of life. And one of the three is a positive consciousness, one that is free from the traumas of the past.
Can I help you on your journey to better health?
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