People who are lonely and depressed often feel that this is because they don’t have company around them. This is a misguided impression, which is not addressed by partying or joining groups. There is a well known expression that people in the city can be far more lonely than those in the country. Certainly city people are a bit more distant to strangers than country people, but there’s more to it.
The loss of a close partner can lead to loneliness and depression when you get stuck in the grieving process.
Immigrants often feel great loneliness and depression even though they wanted to come to their new country. But they have left what was familiar behind them. Familiarity tends to make one feel secure. You know where you fit in, what you can do, where you can go. You know how the system works, however distasteful or frightening it is.
This is false security based on outside influences. It can also be limiting. Real security is based on your core, your inner self and how healthy that is. It doesn’t have limits. And you grow, you evolve.
Feeling lonely and depressed comes from a deep sense within and has nothing to do with being alone. Often it begins in early life with a lack of connection with the mother. The mother is key to the first experiences of a newborn. Mother’s milk helps the child to incarnate into the physical form. Most mothers are fierce in their protection of the child, even laying down their own lives.
Within this protective aura of a mother’s love, a child can develop naturally. Not physical development, which depends more on good nutrition. This is emotional and spiritual development, although all are linked. A loving mother encourages a child to explore their feelings, to trust their instincts.
I love to use the example of animals when trying to make my point. A mare will allow her foal to do anything in the first six months after birth. She will not chastise them as she is aware that the little horse must find themselves. At around six months of age, she now begins the task of discipline, to show the young horse how they must now fit into the herd.
This only ever comes after the young horse has found himself and is secure in this finding.
Finding yourself is about finding who you are, but with a connection with where you came from. It is heart felt. You look around at the trees and the plants, at other people and at animals and you know that you all belong together. It has nothing to do with intellect and learned knowledge, but everything to do with intelligence and knowing. Learned knowledge comes from left brain activity. Knowing comes from the right brain. You feel. You know. You are content. Which doesn’t mean you aren’t active.
In an ideal world, all children would grow up in this nurturing aura of mother’s (as well as father’s, family’s and community’s) love. But we know this doesn’t happen in our current world.
Those who are depressed and lonely can feel overwhelmed, confused and frightened by the technical medical jargon, a diagnosis, the tests as well as the medical personnel. You are already feeling weak, defenceless and vulnerable and can easily be pushed into doing something you don’t want to do.
The best approach for anyone, but especially for value driven and independent thinkers is to press the pause button. Look around for alternatives and try to feel what the best option is for you. The restoration of vibrant health can only come from an ethical and accepting discipline of health care.
Depression and loneliness is common today, because we feel the separation from our source. However the medical treatment of antidepressants can be so damaging to your overall health, does nothing to effect a change in the cause and does enormous environmental damage.
The homeopathic way of treating those who feel lonely and depressed is to look at that part of your life where you were not allowed to be yourself. How you coped with that and the resulting problems that ensued is simply your compensating mechanism doing a great job.
My own approach deals with you as an individual, uses an ethical and accepting form of health care, restores order at the best rate you are comfortable with and is holistic. This means the whole of you benefits.