Overcoming insecurity is challenging, to say the least, on our own. It’s challenging enough when we have support and help backing us up. But we all need to. Insecurities are disempowering. When we are disempowered we are easy targets for manipulators, most of whom care nothing about us, only about the control they have over us and the profit they can make from us.
Insecurity usually has its roots in our childhood, when we were not valued as the wonderful beings we were born as. This can come from parents, from other relatives, from teachers, from group leaders or just from society itself. Instead of encouraging us to explore and discover things for ourselves, we were often spoon fed or discouraged from using our initiative.
It is senseless dwelling on the past. It can be enlightening to observe the root cause of our troubles, but to cast blame means we don’t take the necessary steps to overcome them. Instead we apportion blame to another, who was probably doing the best they knew how.
We are the only ones responsible for our health and well-being. If we pass the baton to another, we might one day find that we have no driver in the vehicle of our life. I think that would be the scariest thing imaginable.
So what are the best ways of overcoming insecurity?
As an holistic practitioner, obviously I favour the holistic approach. We can’t separate mind and body. We are all one, or whole, so we need to see ourselves that way. Every part is influenced by action taken on every other part.
That said, here are my recommendations:
Meditation is an excellent way to become strong. As few people have (or image they don’t have) time to meditate for long periods every day, I suggest spot meditations many times a day. Close your eyes and totally focus on between one and three breaths. Over a period of time, you will look forward to doing this and will feel the difference between conscious thought and being in the now. It is useful to do this more when you have a problem that needs solving.
Take time to consider what others want of you. Don’t always agree or oblige them. Say you will get back to them or that you need to think about it. Insecure people are often people pleasers, usually to their own detriment.
Don’t discuss your insecurities endlessly with others they don’t concern. Discussing them with your practitioner can be helpful, but constantly going over something empowers it, gives it more energy. This means you tend to get more of the same.
A meditation teacher once gave me this analogy: imagine your trouble as an actor on a stage and you as a member of the audience. To ignore the actor means it will keep acting the same scene every time you look. To focus intently on the actor gives it power. To simply allow the actor to express itself often resolves the issue. It was heard.
So allow the thoughts, but don’t encourage them or push them away. You will quickly find you are thinking of other things much of the time.
We all have negative thoughts that are largely unconscious, but keep us trapped. Make a conscious effort to replace these with positive thoughts every time you catch yourself out. Make a list of positive thoughts that you can easily remember and mean a lot to you personally. Wayne Dyer is great for suggestions. But the most important ones are to appreciate what you do have, rather than to focus on what you don’t have.
- you may have wonderful family members/friends/animals
- you may live in a fabulous country/region/house
- you may have an enviable mind that keeps you searching for the meaning of life
However, the most useful tool to help us overcome our insecurities is homeopathy, that wonderful holistic health care that effortlessly sorts our problems out. It may take time to reach our goals, but the right treatment will ensure we do.
We all have our insecurities. They are unhealthy and do not serve us, so should be banished from our lives. By overcoming insecurity, we move into better health, better relationships, better decision making, more ease, more at peace with ourselves and the world.
Use your insecurity as a sign to take action for a better way of life. Homeopathy probably offers you the best way.
You can also use these strategies for anxieties, fears or when facing a difficult time for various reasons. It’s all about empowering you, providing you with the resources for strength, vitality and ease. In everything.