Being your authentic self is not common today. Instead, the pressure is on to conform, to do as others do, not to stand out, not to think. And this means not to be responsible. How can you be, when you are following others, rather than your own heart?

being your authentic self

But I believe that the only way you can be happy is by being your authentic self.

When we simply follow the herd and deny our own values, we commit suicide at a spiritual level. We sever those essential links to our inner purpose, to the reason we are here at this moment, in this body. Happiness can never result from this. Instead a restlessness can come up, in an attempt to re-balance you.

Unfortunately this is often interpreted as a desire for more physical things, to buy, to spend, to create the image (of someone else), to be more ‘normal’.

Certainly, standing up for what you believe in can create conflict from those this challenges; mostly your nearest and dearest. But this downside is temporary and will fade in time, as you become more joyful and more empowered.

And if it doesn’t fade, then you have to ask yourself if those people really have your best interests at heart. Or do they see that by trampling you down, they benefit in some way?

Sometimes you don’t even know what your beliefs are, you just have an uneasy feeling when you follow the herd, when you simply go along with what someone else wants you to do. I have been there are done that and now I feel shame. I am embarassed at myself for not following what I knew to be true, by giving in to the pressure of others.

This pressure doesn’t just come from family and friends. It also comes from governments and from corporate bodies, too.

  • The idea that ‘you should be slim’ pushes young and vulnerable girls to go to ludicrous lengths to attain the impossible (for many). And for what?
  • The idea that men shouldn’t show their emotions puts an unacceptable load on their shoulders which can often only be carried by shutting down that side altogether, becoming hard and indifferent.
  • The idea that women are second class citizens is less than it was (at least in the west), but most of the world still operates under a strong patriarchal system. So women unconsciously limit themselves, deny their instincts and bow to the male system.
  • The idea that ‘you should vaccinate your child for the benefit of the herd’ flies in the face of independent (unbiased) research and logic. Most of the parents who opt out of vaccinating their child do so because they have done a lot of research and know far more about the subject than their GP. They don’t choose to be ostracised by society because they want to be. The alternatives are just unacceptable to them.

Being your authentic self means also being responsible for your actions. You won’t do anything that hurts others, or the planet.

I struggled with this area of my life, probably most my life. I knew I wasn’t the same as the herd, but I was disturbed by being different. I struggled to make an unworkable relationship work, for far too long. I knew there was a better life ‘out there’, but didn’t know what it was or where it was to be found.

It was only with successful homeopathic treatment that I started to get the courage to stand up for myself. Not to be in anyone’s face about it, but not allowing myself to be pushed around, either. Accepting what was outside of my control peacefully, but striving for what I know is right, what is responsible (not just for me).

I believe that being your authentic self is the way forward to a peaceful world, where you are fully respected for being who you are, rather than being a clone of someone famous. A world where individuals as well as organisations don’t threaten the livlihood of ordinary people, non-human species or the place we call home, the Earth.

You can be your authentic self, quietly, but with great purpose and strength, whoever you are, whatever your life currently is. Let me help you on your path.


Madeleine Innocent

You know how often people struggle with their health? They want to know WHY they suffer with health issues, often serious, and all their GP can offer is drugs and surgery? They feel helpless and at the mercy of another. Well, what I do is to help you pinpoint WHY you’re getting sick and implement a strategy that takes you to a feeling of empowerment, of being in control of your life. A strategy that restores your health and allows you to enjoy life.

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